My eldest is now 3.
Three years old.
It happened SO fast.
Being a mama is the hardest thing I have ever done.
Its hard because you quickly realize that the tiny being you have been blessed with is clay in your hands.
Its your job as a parent to mold the clay.
No class in college will prepare you for parenthood. Its definitely a "you gotta wing it" situation.
It helps to have great examples. My mama and stepdad James and Matt's parents, set wonderful parenting examples for us and we are grateful for the lessons we learned.
But, we developed our own style of parenting along the way. I think the core of our style is CONSISTENCY. We strive to keep things consistent in our kids lives.....meal times, nap times, family time, and most importantly, discipline. They always know what to expect and that makes them confident. It also makes them adaptable. I don't know why, but, my extremely scheduled children are extremely adaptable. They have a certain element of "go with the flow", and we believe that is an important attribute. The hardest part of being consistent is discipline. When dealing with a toddler, the hardest lesson is for the parents. Kids are CONSTANTLY testing boundaries. Even in what seems to be the most petty of infractions, its important to be consistent with reprimands and discipline. Letting things slide doesn't happen around this house and its SO HARD! Some days it feels like all we do is correct a behavior and or discipline him for poor behavior. But, I know that its paying off! If there was 1 area that you could choose to remain consistent, I believe that discipline is the key area.
Our amazing 1st born son is a joy to parent.
It is an honor to be his mama.
I can't say enough good things about him, but, here a few.
Rutledge is very intuitive. He gets that from me:) He can already read body language and facial expressions like a book. He has a caring spirit and cares for others and their feelings. While he definitely has a dominate personality, he is learning that he doesn't have to be "right" all the time and that his way isn't always best (I can tell you that is a hard lesson to learn bc I also have a dominate personality!). Rutledge is extremely bright and verbal, especially about anything concerning John Deere;). At his 3 year checkup, his pediatrician said that cognitive ability, memory and attention span are amazing and he is already concerned with him becoming "bored" when he starts school. I guess this is a good thing:) His physical development is right on track! He started out in the 50th percentile in weight and length and is still in the 50th percentile in weight and height.
Rutledge loves to read! We often find him sitting in his room with a pile of books just "reading" to himself:) This makes his book loving mama VERY happy! He LOVES to be outside....especially with his daddy. Praise the Lord for the time change because my boy has been missing his long afternoons outside with daddy. Rutledge loves heavy equipment, especially tractors....of the John Deere variety;) While we do not own a John Deere tractor, (we have 2 Ford tractors and a Case tractor), he is obsessed with the brand and that is fine with us! He is a country boy and what country boy doesn't love John Deere! He is also VERY project oriented....just like his daddy! Give the boy a task and he will complete it or work very hard to complete it:) I don't want to brag;), but, I think he has the best personality in the world. He can be still and read books or he can be outside doing his thing! We think its a good balance.
Rutledge, we love you more than you will ever know. God gave us the opportunity to be your parents and by his grace we will do our best to help you be all that can be!
Frank Rutledge Rogers, we adore you!
Love, Mama and Daddy